Unsaid Rules People Follow With Their SO, No Questions Asked

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satirequeen
Sep 5, 2020 6:00 PM EDT

An essential aspect of any relationship is communication, without which neither yours nor your partner's needs can be met—at least not in a healthy way. Sometimes it's necessary to say how you feel or what you need explicitly, and other times there are things you do for each other that go without saying. When you know someone so well, you don't always need to express things verbally. Redditors are sharing the unsaid rules between them and their SO that they follow without any questions. The replies show just how important it is to have mutual respect, understanding, and excellent communication to maintain a healthy relationship. What are the unspoken rules you have in your relationship?

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    Text - antrophist 1.4k points · 11 hours ago That we will always try our best not to project our own bad feelings onto each other. Instead, to ask directly if we need something. Had a bad day at work and I'm feeling depressed and I would really like a long hug and for her to tell me how she loves me? But she's not a mind reader and she might be occupied with some other stuff. So instead of sulking for hours and then, later on, when she asks me what's wrong, saying something to the effect "I had
    via u/antrophist
  • 02
    Text - TheDanishThede 437 points · 8 hours ago If the cat is on your lap, you can ask your partner to do or get stuff for you, no questions asked.
    via u/TheDanishThede
  • 03
    Text - Rymetris 424 points 12 hours ago Don't leave without saying goodbye, I love you, aaand at a minimum blowing a kiss to each other.
    via u/Rymetris
  • 04
    Text - Back2Bach 342 points 11 hours ago Rule #1: No matter how busy we may be, there's always time for a hug, and maybe more.
    via u/Back2Bach
  • 05
    Text - EnchiraraMonster 161 points · 9 hours ago We always take a moment to thank each other for providing the meals. If my wife cooks for the family, after we are done eating we all thank her for her efforts. Same goes if I cook, or even if one of us pays at a restaurant or takeout. Its simple and means a lot.
    via u/EnchiraraMonster
  • 06
    Text - Camlesky 673 points · 12 hours ago Always come to the door to welcome the other with a kiss and a huge hug when he or I get home at the end of the day. Been doing that for 10 years and it keeps very much the love alive :)
    via u/Camlesky
  • 07
    Text - krawallkoernchen 573 points · 12 hours ago We don't eat each others snacks unless specifically allowed.
    via u/krawallkoernchen
  • 08
    Text - yew420 285 points · 12 hours ago I'm a teacher, some days I need to come just home, have a beverage and defrag for 10-20 minutes before I can talk. My SO has a 6th sense on when these days happen, no questions asked.
    via u/yew420
  • 09
    Text - sixthandelm 273 points · 10 hours ago Whoever opens the next jar of peanut butter first writes something gloating about it in the rest of the fresh surface with a toothpick.
    via u/sixthandelm
  • 10
    Text - holderofstraws 90 points · 11 hours ago He doesn"t talk to me when I'm in the bathroom, and vice versa.
    via u/holderofstraws
  • 11
    Text - Valkerian 78 points · 9 hours ago Once a day we hug for 30 seconds. Just a big old squeezy hug. No talking. Nothing else. Just a big hug.
    via u/Valkerian
  • 12
    Text - wuflubuckaroo 128 points · 11 hours ago · edited 8 hours ago We do not spend any amount over $50 without first at least mentioning it. We both grew up impoverished ,but, despite now being well into the middle class, we adhere to our old habits. Overall it is a good thing. For clarity this does not count towards gifts lol. Edit: fixed some spelling
    via u/wuflubuckaroo
  • 13
    Text - HanginWithLucretia 115 points · 11 hours ago We ask each other before eating or drinking the last of something. We usually end up sharing whatever the last of something was.
    via u/HanginWithLucretia
  • 14
    Text - frozenfroot 94 points · 9 hours ago Safewording outside the bedroom. Moment one of us feels uncomfortable or want to stop doing whatever, like cuddling or mentioning a topic in conversation, we say "avocado," and then we stop and move on, no questions asked, and talk about it later to re-establish our boundaries. I have PTSD and he's very touch averse so when either of us gets overwhelmed or triggered its helpful.
    via u/frozenfroot
  • 15
    Text - Anxiety-Aficionado 71 points · 11 hours ago We have a downstairs bathroom that we refer to as his "office". It is strictly for #2 as the main bathroom of our home is attached to our bedroom. When someone goes to the office, the other does not go downstairs so they can have their privacy.
    via u/Anxiety-Aficionado

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